Dear Ophelia,

Well if you date this man you put yourself in a gauche position. You would abase your family for some churlish man who is an abomination. Your brother, being the belicose he is would brusquely end the young mans life. I suggest that you abdicate your seat of power if you make any hasty decisions although I can foresee a ephemeral marriage. This is going to look like an anomaly to your people but their rapacious ways will blind them. Offer them something for their troubles and they will enjoy their debauchery. The road to redemption, if you choose, will be precipitous and rancorous because you turned your back on your family. This act will never be expurgated form the records even if there is an anachronism in the books. My final suggestion is do as you wish and avoid any saboteurs of your happiness.